While my journey seemed successful on the surface, my internal state was a mess: I was overworking, emotionally unstable, and a heavy user of alcohol and marijuana.
Trying to push myself through this, one day I collapsed and experienced my first (and so far only) breakdown. It was my quarter-life crisis at the age of 25.
This moment made me realize one fundamental truth:
If I don’t take responsibility for my own well-being, nobody else will.
It is thanks to hitting the bottom that I made certain decisions that would change my life radically: I quit my work, sold all my belongings, became a nomad and minimalist, and decided to travel in order to discover myself.
I knew then that all my work will be centered around the subject of emotional well-being and connection - to self, to the world, and to others.
It was during this nomadic journey that I started creating coliving spaces and realizing the transformational power of communal living. It was during that journey that I started expressing myself through music and combined my DJ sets within the ecstatic dance scene. And, most importantly, it was during that journey that I learned the concepts of self-love, lifestyle design, and focussed on self-awareness.
ABOUT MY WORK
While I'm interested in learning and building many things, my recent creations has been mostly around three pillars: human behavior, coliving, and music.
Human Behavior & Coaching
I love understanding myself and others. My passion for human behavior came from having had moments of depression and drug abuse. Being able to come out of it and actively changing myself is the main driver for this part of my work.
I’m an expert in creating coliving communities. After being an operator and running four pop-up coliving spaces, I interviewed and visited 200+ coliving spaces to understand how to create life-enhancing shared living experiences at scale.
I’m at active speaker at conferences in real estate, future of living and community building.
Music & DJing
I’ve been a DJ for 10+ years (Paris, Madeira, Lisbon, Bali, Barcelona) and harpist for 20 years. I’m now combining hosting electronic music experiences with live electric harp sounds. My style is influenced by the notion of ecstatic dance, 5 rhythm dances, and a variety of electro styles. I’m a resident DJ at NomadX, playing in clubs/locations in Lisbon and organizing my own events.
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ABOUT MY LIFESTYLE
I’ve come to redefine my lifestyle over time. The best way to describe it is through some fun facts:
I’ve been a digital nomad for 6 years with no home base. While I have a base in Lisbon, I still travel especially to reconnect with loved ones.
In the last five years, I spent 98% of my time living in communities, whether coliving spaces or self-organized home sharing.
I’m a minimalist and live out of 70 items. I travel only with one bag pack, which even fits my DJ controller.
I love experiences in nature and running, especially trail running. I’ve been running marathons, ultra-runs. My favorite way to discover a city is being dropped of 30km away from home and having to find the way back without phone.
I believe in the power of experiencing our edges, whether through ice baths, psychedelics, martial arts or lucid dreaming.
I’m a person driven by living a value-driven life full of meaning, harmony and growth. I love to learn from life through introspection. This leads me to create applicable frameworks which I share on this website.
I love deconstruction myself and constructing ecosystems around topics that I believe the world needs: in my case, it’s creating initiatives that help humans find connection to self, to others, and to the world.
I love to redefine meaning to things: to define my own relationships to the world and to define my own value systems. I see every interaction with the world as a series of patterns that we can influence: whether our relationship with our loved ones, our relationship to money or success, our relationship to internal emotions or external behaviors.
I love going into unknowns, deconstructing subjects and then leaving them. But there is one subject I've not let go of: how to live a good life, how to reinvent meaning, and how to align my baked and actions in every aspect.
I believe in lifestyle design by introspection. I believe that there is nothing we can be sure of, and that life is a game of discovery. I believe in the power of introspection and qualitative questions.
I believe that the only thing we can try to be in control of in ourselves. Hence, we should focus on ourselves and our own behavior. At the same time, we should find value from giving value to the world. It is finding that balance between focus of self and contribution to the world that is the hardest to maintain: how to live a self-conscious life without being self-centered.
I believe that chasing external success is a contract of unhappiness with yourself. I believe that judging yourself only by whether you did your best, whether you remaining aligned with your values and came from a place of good intentions are the best criteria for feeling fulfilled.
I love observing, analyzing and influencing humans, especially myself. I believe humans are pretty predictable based on certain patterns we adopt and repeat, and that we can change these patterns over time with willingness, increased self-awareness and action for change.
I believe that change starts with self. You can change the world only as much as you changed yourself. It’s about finding the balance in this double bind between changing yourself and changing the world without falling in the trap of overthinking.
I’m a systems thinker who loves making complex stuff simple. At least, I try. I’m a connector of dots and people, creating value by creating unseen opportunities.
It is my hope that by publishing my inner work, I can help others to gain introspection, to change their behaviors and thought patterns, to ultimately lead to a change in culture.
If I would describe myself in three quotes, it would be:
"All type of knowledge ultimately means self-knowledge." - Bruce Lee, Be Water
"It’s a matter of my choosing to do the work of somehow altering or getting free of my natural, hard-wired default setting, which is to be deeply and literally self-centered, and to see and interpret everything through this lens of self." - David Foster Wallace, This Is Water
“The quality of your life is a direct reflection of the quality of the questions you are asking yourself” - Quoted my many ;-)
To conclude it all, my life motto could be summarized as the following: